With a new chapter starting in my life, starting university now, after I graduated from high school last year, I hear a lot of people I know are scared that friendships they have are going to change.
Friends that are going to graduate soon are scared they are not going to stay in contact with their friends, others that changed schools struggle with finding new friends and try to hold onto their old friendships.
After I graduated from school, I went abroad on my own and left all my friends behind and made so many new ones and with this post I want to take your fear of your friendships changing.

At first, I have to say that this is my perspective and I get that everyone has different kinds of relationships with people around them.
With that, I mean that I have never had a friendship end in a bad way.
I am good with everyone I have been friends with and have different kinds of friendships.
Friends that I have since kindergarten or elementary school, some from high school, some that I have reconnected with in high school after not being in contact for a while after elementary school and some I have met on my travels.
Some of my other friends that I am not too close with, I am still in contact with.

Get to know new people that fit your vibe

This is my most important point and that gave me the idea to write about this topic because I realized in a very specific moment that my friendships have changed.
On my birthday, I went to have a picnic with some old friends, and we listened to music and talked, even though inside I really wanted to turn the music up and dance through the field, but I knew those friends weren’t the ones for that.
I knew who my friends for that are, that fit my vibe 100%.
I realized that I have changed while I have been gone and that is good, because it made me a lot happier human and I think I found my people for that.

There are different chapters of life with its specific friends and even if you can have the same friends in every chapter of your life, you will be better with one or the other at different times.
On my travels, I found 2 people that fit my vibe so well.
When I came home I realized that one friend from home I have been close with before, but not too close has exactly the vibe of those 2 other friends and me, and we have spent so much time together after I came home, and she has become one of my closest friends.
All my other friends that I have been close with in school, I still love spending time with, but I think our interests developed in different directions, which is fine.
Those 3 friends have such similar interests, and it feels like they are the friends I need for my next chapter of life.

Someone I know changed schools and is in a different class than all her friends.
She had a hard time finding friends in her new class because she spent her breaks with her old friends.
Even though I do understand that, I think it is important to be open to get to know new people.
Those will be the people you spend your school days with, and you could find new, great friends there.
Not if you keep going back to your old friends and don’t put an effort into getting to know new people.
You can also meet them after school and stay in contact like that and if you all care about your friendship, it will work out, and they wouldn’t be mad, that you are trying to find new friends in your new class.

It is ok to grow apart

I have had many other friends that I am not in contact with anymore.
We grew apart at some point, and I am still grateful for every friendship I have ever had, because they all formed me to who I am today.
Think about it, I am sure you had friends as a kid, that you are not friends with anymore and that is fine.
My best friends from kindergarten and elementary school stayed and the ones that I wanted to stay friends with after school, I am still friends with.

To this point, I need to add, that there has been effort from both sides to stay in contact.
I will forever put effort in friendships I want to keep and stay in contact with.
And if your friends also care about you, they will put effort into staying in contact.
This has to come from both sides though, so if you realize that someone doesn’t put an effort into your friendship anymore, it might not be one for forever and that is fine, because you want people around you that deeply care about you.
Remember your worth!

Some of my friends I haven’t been in contact with for several years, because we got into different classes after elementary school.
When we got back together in one class in 11th grade we became good friends again and with a friend I have been in a class with in high school, we became a very close friends group.
I am so beyond grateful we got in contact again, because they are some of my greatest friends again.
So if there are friends that you grew apart from that are still meant for you, you will get back into contact somehow.

My final statement is that with good friends you can stay in contact for years, even if you don’t see each other often.
Today, it is easy to text each other occasionally and catch up with each other without meeting when you are not living close to each other.
I will always be the person that is catching up with friends, because I think it is great having contacts all over the world.
One friend from kindergarten I haven’t been in contact since then, I met in Australia because she has been in the same place as me and we had such a great time together.
I think that friendships that are meant to be, are going to stay in your life and if you realize that some aren’t meant to be after a while, that is fine as well.
Trust the flow of life, it’s going to come as it should.